Salam and Peace to all
What a long month of April, even it only has 30 days.
Yup, days doing nothing feel much more longer than the busy days.
But I'm not being idle.
I just spent my whole time either in the office or in my room.
Not so busy and hectic, just relax and cool~
Living here, I start to ponder on many things, but only 1 that so obvious to me.
How people love to gossip and spread lies.
I think this has already became a disease in our culture now.
And it even became a common thing, especially among the women.
I guess, it's just like, what goes around comes around.
One person talking trash bout one person, and the other person talking trash bout that one, and another person talking trash to the other person.
It keeps on repeating over and over again without a full stop.
Unless, one person, hopefully just one person, could make it an end.
And that person could be me or you.
Ada teratak di hujung kampung
Bawah cermin kopak ada kotak
Tersembunyi dalamnya ada tempurung
Sembunyi bawahnya katak melalak
What a sarcastic lyrics, if you could really understand them.
It said that a person, with undeveloped states of thinking (teratak di hujung kampung), with a very lousy attitude (cermin kopak), not thinking out of the box (dalam kotak), and has narrow minded (dalam tempurung), tries to give unconstructive, hurtful commentaries (melalak).
Ok, before we give criticism, we better reflect to ourselves first.
That's what I always remind myself, I know sometimes I forget that, but please somebody reminds me please.
Atur sepuluh daktil batal yang batil
Detik dua usul ditutup satu lagi tampil
Minta diisolasi dari dalil busuk jahil
Aspirasi tak serasi dengan suara bunyi
Buah fikiran aneh tergantung di persimpangan
I think, I've already mention bout this before. Just check this out~
Instead of giving a judgement, why not giving reasons, 10 or 100 reasons, and keep the positive ones.
It's not easy, but let's try it.
Who knows, by keeping the positive reasons, could motivate ourselves, to improve ourselves instead.
Because, when we criticise others, we think that we are better, but actually we're not.
Then, it gives a burden feelings to the critics.
As the critics need to walk the talk (aspirasi tak serasi dengan suara bunyi), to prove that they are better than that person.
Only if they realise that.
Ku ditimbang tanpa neraca di awal usia
Ku dihukum masuk neraka oleh manusia
Maafkan mereka, mereka tidak tahu
Mereka tidak ramas buku, mereka segan ilmu
Mereka tidak fasih malah fasik guna kata
Kita kongsi nama bangsa tapi tidak kasta bahasa
Maafkan mereka, mereka tiada nilai
Ibu bapa lalai dari kecil dah diabai
Tanpa kasih sayang, mereka suka menyakiti
Kita kongsi warna mata tapi tidak warna hati
I know, people gossiping because they had nothing to do, just wanna have a chat with their friends.
It's very common especially in schools and offices, even at the market and among the neighbours, mesyuarat tingkap orang cakap.
For the gossipers it is a fun thing to do, but what about the one who is being gossiped?
That person had to face the blame, being look down, and even had to heard all the bad words from the others (Ditimbang tanpa neraca dan dihukum masuk neraka oleh manusia).
Do we have that right to judge others?
Have we ever think the consequences?
Even not on the person behalf, but at least, the consequences to ourselves.
Do we really love to eat our own brothers/sister's meat? yuck!
Guna hak berfikir sebelum hak untuk bersuara
Kalau terpelajar sila guna hak miranda
Pura-pura dengar, telan tapi tidak hadam
Hafaz bila lafaz tapi mereka tidak faham
Mereka mula kiri, aku kanan bila baca
Sudah mahir rumi, mari tafsir alif ba ta
- Aku Maafkan Kamu by Malique feat. Jamal Abdillah
Being silence doesn't mean we are the loser, it just means that we're smart enough to argue with the wrong people for a petty argument (Guna hak miranda).
Well, the best thing to handle this situation is using islamic intellectual way.
I stress it again, ISLAMIC INTELLECTUALITY.
Let's go back the basic, Quran and Sunnah.
"O you who believe! If a Fasiq (liar - evil person) comes to you with any news, verify it, lest you should harm people in ignorance, and afterwards you become regretful for what you have done." [Al-Hujurat 49:6]
"And those who annoy believing men and women undeservedly, they bear (on themselves) the crime of slander and plain sin" [Al-Ahzab 33:58]
"And verily, whosoever shows patience and forgives, that would truly be from the things recommended by Allah" [Ash-Shura 42:43]
Anas bin Malik (r.a.) reported Allah's Messenger (pbuh) saying "Neither nurse mutual hatred, nor jealousy, nor enmity, and become as fellow brothers and servants of Allah. It is not lawful for a Muslim that he should keep his relations estranged with his brother beyond 3 days" [Sahih Muslim]
Allah's Apostle (pbuh) said, "Fear Allah wherever you may be; follow up an evil deed with a good one which will wipe (the former) out, and behave good-naturedly towards people" [Al-Tirmidhi]
Therefore, dear DEXMA..
You should remember, everyone has their own good and bad.
As you want others to hold onto the good side of you, so were you should do the same to the others. Your thoughts reflect who you are.
And forgive everyone every night before you sleep.
Enough said.
p/s ~ never regret coming to UTP. being called as 'Puan', chased by 'beruk', got a chance to attend various seminars, talks, and meetings, met with high-class people.. all the experiences and memories are too good to forget.
