Salam and Peace to all..
Have you ever encounter the feeling that you thought you really know someone, but it end up you only know a lil bit of that person?
Well, that is so true..
I guess nobody really knows other person inside out..
I mean REALLY..
Even a mother towards her child..
Or even between a long married couple..
Or even between the two BFF..
Our knowledge bout a person, for me, just like a piece of jigsaw puzzle..
One can has a piece, or two or more..
But neither has a complete pieces to get a clear picture of who a person is..
I mean NOBODY..
Because I believe that only Allah knows the person the best, inside and out..
Only He has the right to judge the person..
Because He creates us..
"And with Him are the keys of the Ghaib (all that is hidden), none knows them but He. And He knows whatever there is in the land and in the sea; not a leaf falls, but He knows it. There is not a grain in the darkness of the earth nor anything fresh or dry, but is written in a Clear Record" [Al-An'am 6:59]
Thus, who are we to put our judge on other? *knock myself -toink-*
Are we the creator? Do we TOTALLY know that person?
The answer is for surely NO..
Our judgement will not be reliable since we only know just a piece of information..
Well, I might say scientifically is proven..
Cause science is full of assumptions..
But this is not a scientifically matter, this is a real life, psychologically, we talk about human behaviour..
(ok, I'm talking a bit nonsense now)
Why do we judge others, or being prejudice towards others?
Because we saw others imperfection
Then we think we are perfect/much better
Even actually we are not.. *knock myself again -toink-*
Doesn't this relates to the feeling of arrogant (takabbur) *nauzubillah minzalik*
I don't want to give example situation..
There's a lot of this happen everyday in our life, either we realise or not..
Just think for a moment, how many times in a day we praise instead of criticising others?
Just keep the answer for yourself..
One way to avoid being judgmental is, think positive towards other person..
Lets say the person did one annoying thing,
Instead of give criticism, give the person 100, no, 1000 reasons for why did the person did it..
Among the 1000 reasons, there would be a possibility for a positive one, right? (even just 1)
Then just keep the positive one, and discard the rest 999 negative reasons..
It's not easy, but lets just try it..
Or, why not just ask, in a decent way, like being concern, not being skeptical..
The person may be pleased to tell you the reason..
Probably this might change they way you think bout the person, who knows
Narrated Abu Huraira (Radi-Allahu 'anhu): The Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) said, "Beware of suspicion (about others), as suspicion is the falsest talk, and do not spy upon each other, and do not listen to the evil talk of the people about others' affairs, and do not have enmity with one another, but be brothers. And none should ask for the hand of a girl who is already engaged to his Muslim brother, but one should wait till the first suitor marries her or leaves her." [Bukhari]
In a nutshell, DEXMA, don't assume others (like Pn Haz said: ass-u-me =P)
Don't be judgmental on others (but you can if you did lab experiment)
Don't be prejudice and skeptical
Don't be arrogant (accept the good criticism, it's totally different than judgement)
And... just shut up instead of saying bad words that might hurt other.. *knock myself hardly -TOK!-*
p/s ~ Un-startled, like a lion at sounds; un-snared, like the wind in a net; un-smeared, like a lotus in water; wander alone, like a rhinoceros
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